Be Advised: What do I do when my friends DESPISE the guy I like?

Dear Reader,

Unfortunately, this is a situation that EVERYONE has or will be in at some point in their life. With that said, if they are your true friends then they will always have your best interest at heart. If you’re delusional, you might accuse them of being jealous (I for a fact did this once and it bit me in my butt). I promise you they are not. Instead, they are seeing this person for who they are without rose tinted glasses. While this is the hard truth to swallow here’s what to do if your friends don’t approve of the person you like.

First off, you MUST be 100% honest with your friends about the status of your relationship with this person. Don’t leave out the bad parts because you think they’ll judge you or ridicule you for experiencing it or whatever it may be. If you aren’t honest with them, they will be just as surprised as you when things end. On top of that, they won’t be able to guide you through getting out of a potentially toxic relationship. We often fail to remember a simple rule taught in every preschool in America…Honesty is the Best Policy.

Continuing, make sure that you don’t ditch your friends and become more attached to the person you like because you don’t want to hear what your friends have to say. I’ve also made this mistake and it’s the part I regret most. It’s perfectly normal to disagree with your friends but you should never let a romantic attraction come between you and your friends. Because at the end of the day, they are the ones that you’ve not only known the longest but will continue to be there for you in the long run.

On that note, a good friend will voice their opinion but after all is well and done, they will never say “I told you so”. This is very important because you must make the decision for yourself whether this person is worth your time and effort, but you should always take friends and family opinions into consideration. At the end of the day, you want the people attending your wedding to be overjoyed that you are marrying the person that’s absolutely right for you with no second guessing. So, if you’re wondering whether to listen to your friends or not think about your wedding with no attendees and get back to me on how you feel.

Listen to your friends,

The Be Advised Team