Be Advised: January 2024

Topic/Question: A Month Without Your Situationship

Dear Reader,

Look at what you’ve gotten yourself into and don’t worry we’ve all been there. Both you and your label-less “relationship” are going back to your respective hometowns for J-term and before you left one of you said, “I don’t want a relationship right now, but I don’t want you to get with other people”. First off, I’d tell you to end it but if you think they’ll magically change here are some rules you should follow that I wish I did.

1. If you’re not exclusive with a label, then you can and probably should keep your options open. Because you’re not dating unless someone asks the question of “will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend?” Additionally, if they can have a roster so can you (in 2024 let’s end double standards).

2. No introducing anyone to parents or siblings or hometown friends. Once, you’ve been introduced to people important in your situationship’s life you’ll feel like you’re dating. And when they (potentially) end things with you, you’re left feeling even more shocked as it was just a week ago you were washing dishes in the kitchen with their mother.

3. Along with Rule #2, there really shouldn’t be any visiting each other. But if they ask you to come visit while they were under the influence, and you stupidly followed up the next morning then listen to the following. The boy should always visit the girl, never under any circumstance (unless you are truly dating and have been for a while) take the energy and time to visit a boy. Let them come to you, always.

If you aren’t ready to end your first semester situationship, I hope these three rules will help prevent the very contagious disease of delulu. And if they do end it, don’t feel bad there’s always more fish in the sea.

Sincerely,

The Be Advised Team